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Start Your Day With A Little Self Care


Like any new habit, adding self-care into your life can seem kind of tricky. You probably wonder how you’ll manage to find time to do anything extra for yourself, let alone how you’ll actually remember to do these things. One of the best ways to get started is to build your activities into predictable parts of your day. In order to make something a habit, it has to happen regularly. Keep reading, and I’ll show you some tricks to making self-care a routine part of your life.

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Make It Personal

The first thing that will help you in creating your self-care rituals is to choose activities that are meaningful to you and that you enjoy. This is your practice, so you want to be sure it’s customized in order to get the most out of it. Consider making a list of things that help you to feel relaxed, peaceful, excited or happy. These activities should be able to be done in a short amount of time and easily fit into your life without special equipment or tools. At least as you begin your practice, the things you choose to do should be as simple as possible.

Fit It In

You should add your self-care rituals to the most convenient parts of your day. Choose times that are already somewhat flexible so that incorporating something new into that space will be less stressful. Many people go with morning or evening routines, right when they wake up and before going to sleep each night. Getting up fifteen minutes earlier than usual and setting aside a window during the usual night-time schedule are usually things most folks can do. However, maybe designating your daily lunch break as your self-care time might work better for you. Consider activities like writing a gratitude journal entry before bed, listening to music while having your morning coffee or going for a short walk over your lunch hour. Trial and error may be required, but find a moment to call your own every day.

Be Flexible

It’s best to come up with a routine that works for you and stick to it. Committing to a particular schedule will help you to create a habit and ensures that you get the self-care you need. However, try to cut yourself some slack. Some days are more hectic than others. You may not be able to fit in your anticipated self-care activity, and that’s okay. Tomorrow is a new day, and you can try again. Soon, you’ll find yourself wanting to take part in these rituals, and getting back on track will be easy.

Getting into the practice of regular self-care doesn’t have to be difficult. Making a few adjustments to your existing schedule can free up some space in your day. Choose things that will refresh you and that are simple in nature will make getting started a breeze.

Here are a few ideas to start your journey to self-care

  • Practice good sleep hygiene
  • Journaling
  • Hydrate throughout the day
  • 10-minute exercise daily
  • Give your self a digital detox
  • Read a book
  • Time out to breathe
  • Body scrub and bath
  • Morning Reflection

Do you have any self-care tips?

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Red Velvet Cake: For the Birthday Boy

Red Velvet Cake

Oh my gosh, C turned 19 and we had a birthday party for him. He wanted a Red Velvet Birthday Cake and I tried to get one ordered for him so he could have something he wanted.


The local grocery store does not make that kind of cake. I had to improvise so I made the cake from scratch.

It took me all day to make.  Okay, maybe not all day.
I was trying to make dinner and make the cake at the same time. So it felt like all day.

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What's so special about a Red Velvet Birthday Cake

The flavor and a whole lot of red food coloring.

What makes Red Velvet have its unique flavor?

Red Velvets unique flavor comes by less mild cocoa, also a reaction from the cocoa, vinegar, and buttermilk does give its unique a red tint.  

The girls wanted to decorate the cake. I think they did an awesome job.

I've heard that it is hard to make a red velvet cake but I didn't think so. I think what the reason why it might be hard is that you have to use a few dishes and separate some of the ingredients.

You do not put all the ingredients in the same bowl at the same time.

Let's just say my kitchen was a disaster area but it was worth it to get that cake made for my sons birthday.

Sift together the cake flour and salt.

In a separate bowl stir together the buttermilk, vanilla, baking soda, and eggs

In a separate small bowl, mix together cocoa and red food coloring.

This recipe calls for 1 1/2 fluid ounces. I only put in about 8 drops that is why it was not very liquidy enough to stir. 

Red food coloring is supposedly edible and safe but in research, it has been found to increase hyperactivity in some children.

Cream together the shortening and sugar until fluffy. Alternate adding the flour mixture and the buttermilk/egg mixture until all combined.

Pour in the red mixture and beat until combined.

I Poured the batter in a casserole glass dish and used a knife to even out the surfaces.

Bake until done. Finally, it seemed forever to get to this point.

This Red Velvet Birthday Cake was moist and delicious to eat


Sheet cake:

Nonstick baking spray

2 1/2 cups cake flour

1 teaspoon salt

1 cup buttermilk

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

1 teaspoon baking soda

2 whole eggs

1 1/2 teaspoons vinegar

1 1/2 teaspoons cocoa powder

1 1/2 fluid ounces red food coloring

1 cup shortening

1 3/4 cup granulated sugar


1 cup whole milk

5 tablespoons all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

2 sticks of unsalted butter

1 cup granulated sugar

optional: raspberries 

To recap 

  1.  Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.   Spray a large sheet pan with nonstick baking spray.
  2.   Sift together the cake flour and salt. set aside.  In a separate bowl, stir together the buttermilk, vanilla, baking soda and eggs.  Add the vinegar and stir.  Set aside.
  3.   In a separate small bowl, mix together the cocoa and red food coloring. Set aside.  Cream together the shortening and sugar until fluffy.   Alternate adding the flour mixture and the buttermilk/egg mixture until combined.  Pour in the red mixture and beat until combined
  4.  Pour the batter into the cake pan.  Bake for 20 minutes.
  5. Remove the pan from the oven and allow the cake to cool in the pan for 20 minutes.
  6. Place a large cutting board on top of the cake pan, then invert the cake, allowing it to turn out onto the cutting board.  Allow the cake to cool completely before icing.


  1. Combine the milk and flour in a saucepan over medium heat and whisk constantly until thick.  Remove from the heat and let cool.  Add vanilla once cooled.
  2. In a bowl cream the butter and sugar until light and fluffy.  Add the cooled milk mixture and beat very well.  It may look separated, which means you have to keep beating until fully combined. 
  3. Ice the cake and top with raspberries.

In conclusion, I would definitely double the icing especially if you are going to ice the sides of the cake.  

What would you do differently with this cake?